Ramit Sethi had this really nice anecdote in an email newsletter:
Last night, I went to hang out with some friends at a bar. Somebody recognized me and came up to say hello, and we ended up chatting for a while. A couple minutes into the conversation, he said, “You know, I was pretty intimidated to come talk to you.”
I was amused. Why? I asked.
Was it my rapier wit? My mastery of persuasive language? The # of pull-ups I can do?
No. “You call people out on their bullshit,” he said, smiling.
It occurred to me how few people are really, truly honest with us. Of course we have friends who support us, and that’s important. But when was the last time someone held us accountable? When was the last time someone listened to our excuses, paused, and just shook their head, saying, “Dude? Come on now.”
i totally understand that it’s not fun to be criticised, but hey!